:: Step 4: Instruction Set - Guilt

The STOP & REPLACE System – Guilt         

Guilt

At the top of the next Stop and Replace System form, write in Guilt. If there is something specific to you such as guilt from food, not exercising, procrastination etc., write that in next to it.

Benefits of NOT doing this and Empowering Questions

In the left column below guilt, it states Benefits of NOT doing this. What might the benefits be for not being guilty? If you have a difficult time thinking of advantages for not being guilty, refer to The Stop and Replace samples. Remember, when you refer to a sample, only use the information there if it is specific to you.

What might a big advantage be for restructuring guilt? What does guilt do to you? Guilt tends to help generate your negative self-talk. Restructuring guilt will help you eliminate your negative self- talk.

The benefit or anchor then for not being guilty would be…“I will be able to eliminate my negative self-talk.” If this is relative to you, write it down. An Empowering Question for this benefit might be…“What do I need to do to permanently eliminate my negative self-talk?”

You have also once again uncovered something you want to restructure if you marked in eliminating negative self-talk as one of your benefits or anchors. What other benefits or anchors are there for not being guilty? If you restructure guilt, will you feel better emotionally? Yes. Therefore, another benefit for not being guilty is…“I will feel better emotionally.” A suggestion for the correlating Empowering Question would be…“What action do I need to take to improve my emotional state every day?”

Another benefit for not feeling guilt is…“I will eliminate behaviors that make me feel guilty.” The Empowering Question would be…“How can I permanently Stop behaviors that make me feel guilty.”

Another benefit for not being guilty is…“I will be able to eliminate guilt as an excuse for over eating, not exercising etc.” The Empowering Question would be…“How can I permanently eliminate guilt as an excuse for over or under eating and skipping my fitness plan?”

Answers to Empowering Questions

Be sure to fill in your Answers to Empowering Questions when the answers come to you. Drop down to your replacement picture.

Describe your Replacement Picture - Associated

Once again, the basis for this new picture needs to be a combination of the results of the goals you listed in the Subconscious Perspective and the description of the new self you wrote down in the Subconscious Self-Image. After establishing the picture of the new self, make sure the structure is the same as your initial replacement picture and enhance it in any way you possibly can. For instance, add music to it if you have a favorite song, add whatever colors you want, or put people in the picture who make you feel good. Make sure you focus on the results of your replacement picture. Always go for the results of not feeling guilty and Associate with this picture.

Describe your Old Picture - Dissociated

Make sure you keep yourself out in the audience of the theater when viewing this picture or up in the balcony looking down at yourself, looking at this picture.

Your Cue for Guilt

When you are done describing the old picture, continue to look at it and then run it backwards until right before you begin the behavior. This is your cue.

The Switch Pattern for Guilt

Are you ready for the switch pattern? First, get a good clear vision of the new picture and make sure you are a part of it. Once you have established that picture, I want you to move it aside for a moment.

Now establish a dissociated vision of the old picture. When you recognize the cue in the old picture, say STOP to yourself and then move the picture closer to you, make it smaller, smaller, darker, and darker until its a little black BB right in front of your face. Now shoot it back behind you and blow it up into a million molecules while saying REPLACE which simultaneously brings up the new picture.